tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post687339462545826704..comments2023-04-30T04:47:07.939-07:00Comments on Randomness and Lunacy: Why Do We Celebrate Things That Haven’t Happened Yet?Jenn Flynn-Shonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08441834864191292424noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-67455970815054687542010-06-06T15:02:20.280-07:002010-06-06T15:02:20.280-07:00Hmmm...I never thought of it that way. I never rea...Hmmm...I never thought of it that way. I never really liked getting invites from too many people anyway for any event so I guess I never though any deeper about it than <i>'why the hell did they invite me?'</i> That's an interesting perspective though.Lisa BTBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13898431687048520515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-49553437017914326382010-06-06T15:38:10.614-07:002010-06-06T15:38:10.614-07:00I think it's because pregnant women do this &q...I think it's because pregnant women do this "nesting" thing -- around the time they have the shower, some little maternal instinct in them actually wants to organize all the baby stuff. To do that, they need baby stuff to organize. =)<br><br>As for the "what could happen", well, again, the timing of the baby shower generally coincides with viability...if the baby is born tomorrow, it'll be a preemie, sure, but it'll survive. And, granted, I love medical shows so I know that a lot COULD happen even when the baby is full-term, but I guess I'm more optimistic than that.<br><br>As for the "whoops, I guess it's a boy" issue...that's why I almost always get a gender-neutral gift, like bottles or similar necessities, or maybe I'll go as far as a plain white onesie with an animal on it or something. I think one time I got a really cute girly outfit because I just couldn't resist...luckily the doctors were right and it was a girl, but I will admit that I was a bit anxious about giving that gift.<br><br>If you couldn't tell from that response...I love baby showers. I've even gone to ones for people I didn't even know in order to keep a friend company (those were usually, "god, my family is SO annoying, but I have to go to this, can you come with me?). I'm also REALLY good at the games...I think because I've been to so many.<br><br>All that aside...I totally understand, I know plenty of people who aren't fans of baby showers, for various reasons. And, if I randomly change my mind about the whole having a kid thing, I won't invite you to the shower...I'll just tell you when the baby is here. ;)Bridgetehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03709723619816973092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-11919050984605737812010-06-07T07:39:20.514-07:002010-06-07T07:39:20.514-07:00Its a 'mama' thing like Brigete said....an...Its a 'mama' thing like Brigete said....and I've heard many a doctor say the baby will usually arrive healthy. Were that not true.....well...look around at all the people and that answers that "what if?".<br><br>You shoulda been a man Jenn. Then you'd pay little attention ...except that expected by women....to the whole issue.spottedwolfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02687020216039527521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-19575006786637435802010-06-08T17:49:12.856-07:002010-06-08T17:49:12.856-07:00I look it as.... there are no guarantees with anyt...I look it as.... there are no guarantees with anything in life, so why not celebrate/indulge in what is now.<br>Not that I like going to any type of showers, but for a totally different reason. :) I would just rather meet friends/family out and about. The park, restaurant, my house, their house....you get the picture. <br>Shower games are not fun!Joanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13028455230976673335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-73383178140048070372010-06-08T20:25:14.015-07:002010-06-08T20:25:14.015-07:00We don't have baby showers in Korea. We give g...We don't have baby showers in Korea. We give gifts when the baby turns 100 days old. Not a day earlier. I'm sure it started long time ago when infant mortality was very high and it wasn't until 100 days after the birth that a baby is declared, 'viable'. <br><br>Having said, I think giving gifts after baby is born is more appropriate for a few reasons. 1) you know the sex of the baby. 2) you don't have to worry about a 'what if' scenario 3) you have more selection of crap to buy. Newborn gifts are boring anyway. 4) don't need to go to the baby shower and wonder why people have baby showers when the event didn't even happened yet. <br><br>So Jenn, next time someone invites you to another baby shower, just politely decline and tell them to call me. I'll explain to them the Korean etiquette on giving baby gifts.ecokarenhttp://www.ecokaren.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-18420123011278421632010-06-09T06:25:10.504-07:002010-06-09T06:25:10.504-07:00Yeah, I'm not generally a superstitious sort, ...Yeah, I'm not generally a superstitious sort, but baby showers always fill me with a feeling of dread. Not that I attend many (any) but I'm of the same mind as you - what if...?Suldoghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07778845367184916684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-85570194716922474992010-06-09T10:59:14.325-07:002010-06-09T10:59:14.325-07:00I totally agree with you...I've seen bad thing...I totally agree with you...I've seen bad things happen that would make me cringe at the thought of a shower if I (God forbid) ever got pregnant.<br><br>I know that the purpose is to provide the mother with things she will need for her child, but I don't see the point of the games and stuff. The thought that always runs through my head is, "Oh, great! You've decided to put MORE pressure on the Earth by adding to the population that's already beyond capacity! Good job! I'm sure future generations will love having no trees or grass to make room for your kid!"...but I'm just like that. :)gingerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13540062415882767130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-919324484867580092010-06-11T05:04:03.108-07:002010-06-11T05:04:03.108-07:00You know Jenn..we did this for Cara..Bought her th...You know Jenn..we did this for Cara..Bought her things to pamper herself with..a few things for baby..Usually our baby showers are at the end of term..we just feel better about it. Sometimes we have had them after the baby is born..<br>It does give the parents a little start with things..never buy colors pink/blue..I don't care what the test says. <br>Will be a fun time just being with your dear friend and she will so appreciate seeing you there..Sometimes I think that is the most important part..xoxoRosebud/CarolynRosebud Collectionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06907760433209723539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-39697754025416983442010-06-19T06:23:27.888-07:002010-06-19T06:23:27.888-07:00Hmm, baby showers the perfect excuse to make a ver...Hmm, baby showers the perfect excuse to make a very pregnant, totally uncomfortable woman feel like a lumbering cow. All those jokes and remarks like; "Gad, you're as big as a barn." Oh and I love (not really) the game of guess the mom-to-be's tummy measurement. Yeah, there are definitely somethings the party could do without.Almost Precioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02349435936032378395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2080647999171945249.post-43079749512716739982010-06-23T09:05:48.589-07:002010-06-23T09:05:48.589-07:00I used to hate going to baby showers... until I ha...I used to hate going to baby showers... until I had a baby... then I knew why everytime the new mother opened a gift, everyone would ooh and ahh. A baby shower lets every woman there who has gone through pregnancy and childbirth a chance to relive what was probably the most wonderful time in their lives. I think giving gifts to the mom is a great idea. Little babies have way more stuff than they really need!Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16505134228454833619noreply@blogger.com